BDSM Impact Play Safe Zones

Show me a BDSM toybox without some kind of impact toy and I’ll show you a Dom that is probably thinking of doing some online shopping.

But, I’ve seen some pictures on Tumblr recently that I hope are faked, because the bodies are marked up in areas they really shouldn’t be marked up in.

I studied anatomy in art school, but if you didn’t then fret not because we love you. I spent the morning doodling on my computer for you, and in our free downloads we now have a PDF of BDSM Impact Play Safe Zones. It’s A4 sized, but it’s a vector so it’ll print nicely at large sizes too.

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I didn’t draw below the surface of the body, so here’s Kinky Anatomy 101 – the quick crash-course in parts of the body you really (really!) want to avoid:

KIDNEYS

These are located in the back, below the ribcage and above the butt. If you have a whip or a flogger you’ll be using the back as a nice broad target but you should be leaving this entire area alone. The kidneys are extremely delicate and it doesn’t take much to impact them, so consider this area a definite no-fly zone.

TAILBONE

While you’re avoiding the kidney area, keep clear of the tailbone too. It’s at the base of the spine and although a whip is unlikely to break it, it’s certainly possible. It’s also very uncomfortable when it’s bruised.

SPINE

The spine in general, top to tail, should be avoided. It’s easy to bruise because there’s not much protecting it, and it’s made up of disks that could be dislodged or impacted.

HIPS

The sciatic nerve and several other nerves run through the buttocks and across the bony outer part of the upper thigh/hip. They’re fairly well protected by fat and muscle in your butt, but there’s not very much protection in the hip area. If you’ve ever known anyone who’s had a pinched or impacted nerve here, you’ll know it’s not nice.

NECK

Along with your airways, your neck is a major superhighway of arteries, tendons and glands. There are things you can do in BDSM with the neck, but hitting it should never be one of them.

FACE

I’m not going to tell you not to face-slap, but if you are going to do it, do it safely. Use your other hand to support the head and focus on what you are doing. A sudden rush of air pressure can damage the eardrums, so ears are a no-go area.

A MESSAGE FROM THE SAFETY POLICE

I’m sure you know how to play safely, so I won’t drone on and bore you. Here’s just 3 hot tips:

Have a safe word. Even if you’re a big, tough pain pig who thinks you’ll never call it, you might need it to stop play if something goes physically wrong. There’s good pain and bad pain, and if you feel bad pain you should stop and find out what has happened.

Negotiate. If you’re bottoming, then tell your Top how far you want to go and set a hard limit. If he’s good then he won’t stop too soon and he won’t go too far.

Avoid wannabes. If you’re playing with someone new, size them up. If you’re bottoming, and the Top looks or sounds inexperienced, then back away slowly. If they look drunk or drugged, then back away fast. If you’re a Top, and your bottom is inexperienced, then be prepared to alter your pace and style to suit them.

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