This Week in Kink, December 2, 2017

It’s December, so I feel like it’s an acceptable time to say “It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas”. You’re reading this, so you’ve probably got at least one kinky person on your shopping list. Stockings always make a great stocking stuffer (it’s in the name!), but perhaps you’re wondering what’s new this year?

Everyone loves books, and the godfather of Japanese erotic photography, Nobuyoshi Araki, has just published Tokyo Lucky Hole. It’s a door-stop of a book, with over 800 photos of the sex shows, massage parlors, orgies and fetishes of Tokyo’s notorious Shinjuku district.

Tom of Finland x Happy Hour Skateboards Tote Bags: DAY & NIGHT

For guys, how about something hunky from the Tom of Finland collection? He’d look great in a Tom of Finland x COSTO BARU black leather cap, or if he’s more of an indoors type there are oven mitts, aprons and tea towels.

All the littles I know tend to enjoy the wrapping paper and ribbon as much as the gift inside, but you’re sure to get a squeal of delight with the Lolita-inspired Loulou sunglasses from the colette x Saint Laurent collection.

If you’re in NYC and you’re just in the mood to browse, step through the furry black archway of 70 Wooster Street for sex toys, handcuffs, videos and BDSM-wear at Pornhub’s pop-up store. It’s there until 20 December, and if you’ve got an exhibitionist streak, there’s even a bed for customers to interact with a camera on a live feed streaming on to the popular website.


I’ve often wondered if Grindr was named as a sly reference to the meat market that it is. If you’re not familiar with the app, think of it as the gay man’s Tinder, except with less flirting and more “your place or mine?” This week they announced updates, which includes being able to list your gender identity as trans man, woman, cis man, non-binary, non-conforming and queer. The changes aren’t to make the app useful to the heterosexual community, they’re designed to make it more inclusive for transgender users, but it will be interesting to see what comes next.


A couple of weeks ago, London-based lingerie brand Playful Promises released the first images for their new Bettie Page collection, featuring gender fluid drag and burlesque performer (and winner of season 7 of Ru Paul’s Drag Race) Violet Chachki. To be honest, I haven’t heard any blowback from that at all, but Playful Promises’ PR company says they’ve had a “bashing on Twitter” and is drumming up interest by defending their choice of model.

‘Violet is gender fluid,’ the brand wrote on Twitter. ‘We did not choose “a man”. We chose a gender fluid person that is not represented in the media, and certainly not in the lingerie industry. ‘Deliberately misgendering someone, once informed of their gender identity, is cruel. It also implies that trans women are not accepted. We stand with our trans, gender fluid and non-binary friends, you are all welcome. ‘We also chose to use a non-binary model because the vintage/pinup community has certain issues with gender (also racism, but that’s another thread). We’ve seen comments comparing “modern” women to their “classier” counterparts of the past.

I’m not sure if this is an issue or a non-issue, but Violet looks great.

feature image: Violet Chachki in Playful Promises lingerie

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