Illustrated Guide – Rimming

Rimming (or if you want to prim and proper about it, analingus) is divisive. It tends to be either a big turn-on or a big turn-off, though some are in the “meh” camp. The illustration tells you pretty much everything you need to know about eating ass, but it doesn’t touch on safety, so a…

Illustrated Guide – Figging

Figging, also called Victorian Figging, is the process of carving a piece of ginger into a butt-plug. To get the most from it, run the ginger lightly over a grater after it is peeled, and you’ll find you can keep the intensity up by refreshing it with the grater every 10 minutes or so. Insertion…

Playing Safe with Butt Plugs

by Terry F. The body orifices have functions legitimized by societal norms. By plugging an orifice you transgress the boundaries of society. Butt plugs bear meaning in this sense, for example, since a butt plug transgresses not only the orifice but also the ancient societal norm that has declared that the asshole can provide only…

Observations on Fisting: A Personal Journey

by Andrew H. What connects fisting to BDSM? Very simply, it is a power exchange. What elevates it beyond other power exchanges is that a man physically places his life, his very being, in the hand of another man. And whether fisting is part of a larger BDSM scene, or an activity in and of…

Illustrated Guide – Basic Dildos

We’ve reblogged this illustration from Girlfriend and ExGirlfriend BDSM Gallery. They’ve got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. We’ve posted an illustrated guide to dildos before (see below), but this one is a collection for the toy-box that every Dom will…

Butt-Plugging a Novice

by Hermes Solenzol Buttplugs are very effective ways to put somebody into submissive mind space. Being penetrated is always an intimate sensation, and the use of an object adds an element of humiliation. Targeting the anus increases the feeling of intimacy and vulnerability, because of the taboos associated with it. Moreover, anal sensations tend to…

Anal Fisting – Keeping it Safe, Clean and Disease-free

by Larry R. Shockey This is part 4 of a 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 1 – Learning the Basics • Part 2 – Preparing for Play (Advice for Fisting Tops and bottoms) • Part 3 – The Mind-Body Connection (Headspace…

Anal Fisting – The Body-Mind Connection

by Larry R. Shockey This is part 3 of a 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 1 – Learning the Basics • Part 2 – Preparing for Play (Advice for Fisting Tops and bottoms) • Part 4 – Keeping It Safe, Clean…

Anal Fisting – Preparing for Play

by Larry R. Shockey This is part 2 in a 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 1 – Learning the Basics • Part 3 – The Mind-Body Connection (Headspace Before, During and After the Scene) • Part 4 – Keeping It Safe,…