This Week in Kink, November 4, 2017

Kevin Spacey leads the news this week after he came out as gay following allegations that he tried to seduce Star Trek star Anthony Rapp when he was 14 years old, by climbing on top of him. The LGBT community has been united (and vocal) in finding the announcement a skeevy attempt at misdirection. Actor…

Are Kinks Getting More Extreme?

Some people who’ve been in the BDSM scene a long time observe an escalation in the extremity of the things we do. It can certainly look that way in online communities. Safe, Sane and Consensual has given way to Risk Aware Consensual Kink, and there has certainly been a rise in popularity of identifiers like…

Tough Tits – Nipple Play for Guys

by Anon The following is more a description of a personal repertoire than it is a comprehensive list of technique. I share it with you in the belief that you may find some of these tricks appropriate to your own style. While I wrote the tips on the assumption that one person does something with…

Observations on Fisting: A Personal Journey

by Andrew H. What connects fisting to BDSM? Very simply, it is a power exchange. What elevates it beyond other power exchanges is that a man physically places his life, his very being, in the hand of another man. And whether fisting is part of a larger BDSM scene, or an activity in and of…

Hot Scenes with Candles

by Gil K. Are you getting hot flashes? Does your skin feel prickly and on fire? Then either you are having an allergic reaction or someone is dripping hot wax on you. Lets hope its the latter, and discuss some technique and safety. MATERIALS A variety of candles can be used. These include: COACH CANDLES:…

Abrasion – Rubbing You the Right Way

by Rich W. While the world at large thinks of “abrasion” as a wearing or grinding away by friction or as an irritation, we who are SM-aware know that abrasion is an erotic stimulation of the skin by rubbing, scratching, or pricking. Abrasives are referred to in the Bible and are depicted in Egyptian drawings…

Electricity, Safety and the Nothing Above The Waist Rule

By Dean of Seattle There is a general rule in electrical play: Nothing Above The Waist. This rule can, however, be broken, in specific instances, with strict adherence to procedure. If you aren’t willing to play by the rules in this area though, this article isn’t for you this time. Above the waist is not…

Watersports, and Why You Want a Bathtub in Your Next Home

by Fledermaus When I first heard the term “watersports”, naive little me it was a l-o-n-g time ago, I thought of swimming, diving, water polo, beach balls, and other stuff like that. It wasn’t many years later that I discovered that the water that the “WS” ads referred to was yellow and came from a…

Predicament Bondage

You’ll be familiar with the saying “choosing between a rock and a hard place”. Predicament bondage is an evil game that leaves the bottom with (usually) two choices, which they’re forced to choose between. Both choices have unpleasant outcomes, but there’s no way out. They have to choose option A or option B, or switch…

90 Creative Ideas for Erotic Humiliation & Degradation

We get a lot of queries about humiliation & degradation, specifically about practical ideas for things to do. Not every activity is suitable for every person, but here’s 90 fun ones. I didn’t write these, they’ve been passed around on the internet for a while, and before we get into the fun bit I wanted…