Illustrated Guide – Figging

Figging, also called Victorian Figging, is the process of carving a piece of ginger into a butt-plug. To get the most from it, run the ginger lightly over a grater after it is peeled, and you’ll find you can keep the intensity up by refreshing it with the grater every 10 minutes or so. Insertion…

Sensual Flogging

By Michael Fleming I would like to share some of my feelings about the experiences I’ve had with respect to the sensitive and sensual aspects of flogging. For both Top and bottom, many S/m scenes can be greatly enhanced, even “immortalised” with a sensual flogging done well. Indeed, flogging can literally make or break any…

The Error of Silence

by Isaac Cross For those of us to the left of the slash (dominant, top, etc), we often make decisions for the good of our partners without telling them. Even with the best of intentions, these decisions often have the opposite effect if we fail to communicate. I recently had arranged for a particularly brutal…

Predicament Bondage

You’ll be familiar with the saying “choosing between a rock and a hard place”. Predicament bondage is an evil game that leaves the bottom with (usually) two choices, which they’re forced to choose between. Both choices have unpleasant outcomes, but there’s no way out. They have to choose option A or option B, or switch…

Illustrated Guide – Nipple Toys

We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery, one of the many sites that Tumblr killed in their purge. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. nipple clamps: Any clamp or clamp-like device designed to compress the subject’s nipples. May include a mechanism for adjusting or…

Illustrated Guide – Wax Melting Points

We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. wax play: The top drips hot wax on the bottom. (See “fire and ice“) Safety note: It is important what kind of candle…

Can Role-Play Add to the Pleasure That Pain Brings?

What’s in your sadomasochist (S/m) repertoire? If you think of role-play as “I’m the stern headmaster and you’re the naughty student” then some people enjoy that kind of play and some people don’t find much in it. In this context we’re talking about role-play as making up fictional characters or putting ourselves as real characters…