This Week in Kink, April 14, 2018

We all know that the world is moving forward at an increasingly rapid pace and we, the “sexual explorers”, have always been at the forefront of advances in technology. As soon as there were cameras we made porn, and when we got moving images we made dirty movies. And so it has continued. We were…

This Week in Kink, April 7, 2018

Articles like We Asked a Dominatrix What Sex Toys You Can’t Live Without or 15 Secrets for Sparking Your Love Life from a Sex Worker are a dime-a-dozen in pop-culture magazines, so your eyes may have glazed over and you may have missed Salon’s fantastic I Tell Men “No” for a Living: What a Dominatrix…

This Week in Kink, March 31, 2018

  There was a time, back in the early 90s, when being a porn star was glamorous. Porn stars were real stars and they gave the parties they were invited to a sparkle. In an interview in GQ, Jesse Jane, star of 2005’s Pirates says those days are long gone: They do stuff like triple…

This Week in Kink, March 24, 2018

In the People’s Republic of China there is no such thing as the truly “personal”. What you do in your life has the potential to be seen as “a possible influence on society”, and if that is seen as detrimental the consequences can be public humiliation, jail or even a death sentence. Article 301 of…

The Cuckold is Not Worthy of Your Glorious Being

Discussions on cuckolding tend to get complex very quickly, so let me start this with a couple of definitions from the BDSM Glossary Group on Fetlife: cuckold: A man with an “unfaithful” long term partner (i.e. a husband and wife where the wife has sex with other people). There are many variations on cuckolding, but…

This Week in Kink, March 17, 2018

If you’ve never thought about the secret, sadomasochistic erotics of food service, I urge you to click over to Dazed to read Brittany Newell’s recollection of working the bakery floor, and how she found much to turn her on in her work. The sadomasochistic kicks of food service are not really about pain. They’re about…

This Week in Kink, March 10, 2018

If you’re in LA, today is your last day to catch an exhibition by the leathermen of Avatar Club Los Angeles. Showing at Highways Performance Space and Gallery, it celebrates 35 years of BDSM education and features erotic art by a variety of noted and new artists. The art is for sale, and supports the…

This Week in Kink, March 3, 2018

If you’ve only got time to read one article this week, I’m going to recommend Garage Magazine’s BDSM is Everywhere from High Culture to High Fashion. In 1995, photographer Susan Meiselas explored FemDom club Pandora’s Box in NYC for Magnum Photos. She revisits it 22 years later for this assignment, along with writer Katherine Bernard….

Informed Consent

If we were writing some kind of guide to the principles or philosophy of BDSM then “informed consent” would probably be our opening chapter. Nearly everything else we talk about, when you distill it, is based on informed consent. It’s the dividing line between BDSM and abuse, it’s the basis of SSC and it’s the…