This Week in Kink, February 17, 2018

Here’s a burning question. Can you build up a tolerance to porn? Is it like a gateway drug that requires bigger and bigger hits to get the same high? Dr Justin Lehmiller thinks there is no evidence that’s the case. He reports on a new study published in the journal Sexual Medicine suggests that the…

This Week in Kink, February 10, 2018

You might have noticed that a lot of the “dominatrix spam” you see on Fetlife, or phishing you get on dating sites, comes from the Eastern Bloc. A combination of 3 factors have made Romania a major player in the sexcam industry: poverty, an abundance of unemployed (and good looking) young people who speak English,…

The Four Stages to Exploring Your Fantasy

No-one wakes up one morning and says “check it out, I’m into kink now”. We come to all things through a process. A desire takes root, and we prod at it and probe it to see whether it will stick or is just a passing fancy, and how important it is to us. Most of…

This Week in Kink, February 3, 2018

Cuckolding seems to be having a moment right now, and not just for the term being co-opted into political language as an insult. In an interview with CNN Dr David Ley, author of Insatiable Wives, says: This fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality, but we’re hearing more and more about it…

This Week in Kink, January 27, 2018

Let’s start with a couple of apps this week. Legal Fling is a “sexual consent” app which uses blockchain to store your personal preferences. A person can choose ‘yes’ or ‘no’ for different categories, including photo and video, use condom, STD-free, explicit language and BDSM. A request is then sent to the phone of their…

This Week in Kink, January 20, 2018

According to New York Post, this year “Daddy” is the new MILF, and it has nothing to do with incest kink. In Parental Figures, Femdom Resource notes that while “Mommy” may be used in roleplays, it is seldom used in the same abstract way as “Daddy”, and wonders why that is? Kiiroo and OhMiBod offered…

You’re An Alpha Sub? What Do You Mean By That?

If you ask someone to identify themselves by role, there are all kinds of hybrid combinations you might hear in reply. One that’s sure to cause confusion is the Alpha sub, because there are several different ways to use the term, and at least one is contentious in the community. SOCIAL HIERARCHY The term “Alpha…

Calling Yourself an Alpha Dom Just Makes You Look Bad

You might think you are the most Domly Dom to ever have Dommed, but here’s a news flash: you’re not. Sorry, but with so many “Alphas” inhabiting the kink scene, not everyone can sit at the top of the BDSM food chain. There are certainly a few valid ways to use the term “Alpha”. It’s…

This Week in Kink, January 13, 2018

A couple of “Best of 2017” posts that are worth your time: The Camera Loves You! Best of CrashPad 2017, a Photo Journal has photographer Tristan C’s favourites of the year, and they are glorious (and definitely not safe for work). If you’re looking for an afternoon of great reading, try Suzy Hooker’s 2017 Best…

This Week in Kink, January 6, 2018

Shock, horror! It’s not all zip-up hoodies and Segways in tech startup culture. The story that seems to be everywhere this week is the drug-fueled sex parties of Silicon Valley, revealed in an extract from Bloomberg TV reporter Emily Chang’s about to be released book Brotopia: Breaking Up the Boys’ Club of Silicon Valley. Describing…