This Week in Kink, December 16, 2017

Twitch is a live, video-streaming service focused on broadcasting people playing computer games, board games and role-playing games, cooking, eating and making art. You might think that’s quite niche, but BBC News estimates that it has 15 million daily active users and more than 2.2 million people use it to stream their gaming sessions. Early…

This Week in Kink, December 2, 2017

It’s December, so I feel like it’s an acceptable time to say “It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas”. You’re reading this, so you’ve probably got at least one kinky person on your shopping list. Stockings always make a great stocking stuffer (it’s in the name!), but perhaps you’re wondering what’s new this year?…

This Week in Kink, October 28, 2017

A common safety measure in the kink community is to “silo” your social media. You don’t use the same photo on Fetlife that you do on Facebook or Linkedin, because Google’s reverse image search may allow a stalker to follow you from one site to another. But, as facial recognition technology becomes accessible and affordable…

Fassinger’s Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink

This is a companion piece to our previous article The Cass Identity Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink In the same way that we looked at the Cass Sexual Identity Model, I’m going to attempt to re-situate Fassinger’s Model of Gay and Lesbian Identity Development in the context of BDSM subcultural identity formation. Fassinger’s Model…

The Cass Identity Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink

i grew up with the boom in technological advancement we call the Internet Era, so i am one of the so-called “lucky ones”. In my time, laptops and phones have become thin and the speed of the internet has grown fat, in something of an exponential graph. By the time i was 15 i had…

BDSM Culture and Gender Identity

How do gender identity and BDSM collide, and does one influence the other? Obviously, we know that all dominants are not male and all submissives are not female, but could our BDSM roles influence our gender identity, and could our gender roles influence our BDSM identity? It’s important before we start thinking about it to…

What Sexual Orientation Are You Really?

For a long time we all talked about sexual orientation in the terms defined in Alfred Kinsey’s 1948 book Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male. Kinsey used a scale of 0 to 6, from heterosexual to homosexual with 5 shades of grey. In recent years we’ve also started talking about sexual orientation in terms of…

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In the U.S., BDSM history is richly steeped in leather culture and the stories of returning WWII veterans and motorcycle clubs. Parts of the community, including Sissy Maids, get overlooked in these stories, yet they have a rich, and better documented, history in Europe. We’ve had quite a number of queries for a Sissy Maid…