The Imagined Space of Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationships aren’t that uncommon in 2016. Most of us, at some point of time, have been forced to leave someone that we are really close to temporarily, and some of us are in relationships with someone in another city, state or even country. We try our best to stay connected through internet, phonecalls,…

A Letter to a Younger Me – and Any Other Young Doms

by SimonShroud I have been in the D/s lifestyle for coming up on a decade. So much has changed in me during that time. I wish that I could go back ten years and sit down with my younger self and have a little chat about what it means to be a Dominant. I did…

Overcoming Limits of D/s in Long Distance Relationships

The languid Dom in a silky robe leans back in his comfortable chair, takes a sip from him coffee and draws on his cigarette. His naked and collared sub moves forward from his kneeling position to take the cup, then backs away and hurries to the kitchen to refresh it. What we have in that…

Submissive Journals as a Tool for Developing BDSM Relationships

You don’t just switch power exchange (TPE) relationships on like a tap, you grow them. To do that, communication is key, and journals are one way to help that information flow. One of the most common reasons for subs to keep a journal is to give their Dom access to their thoughts and feelings, but…

Online BDSM Relationships Need A Safety Net

Online sexting is a thing. We all have smartphones, laptops and gadgets that allow us to venture out into the cyber meat-market. In Malaysia and Singapore (and possibly your country too) it’s difficult to find (kink) social networks outside of the internet. Especially when the universal adage YKINMY (your kink is not my kink) is…

Long Distance Relationships – Helping your Dom When He Drops

We’ve talked about Domspace and subdrop in previous posts as mostly being about endorphin floods (and mental space) during a scene, and the effects of recovering from that when the scene ends. If you’re in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR), you may have experienced a different kind of drop. For the sake of this article…

Is Your Potential slave a Fraud?

by ijm “Wanted – strict Master to use & abuse this bootlicking, pain-craving pigslut as Your 24/7 slave. No limits or safe words. Make me Your pierced and tattooed boy.” Over the past few years i’ve run across many different advertisements posted by “eager to please” slaves on the Internet only to find that many…

Chastity – A Practical Guide for the Long Distance Keyholder

In a good world we wouldn’t have geographical separation to cope with, but it is what it is and sometimes we have to incorporate distance as an element in what we do. I’m going to share the system of long-distance chastity that we use. I’m sure it’s not the only way, but it works for…

An Online Dominant’s Illustrative Primer

I hope that this article will prove helpful to (possibly young and inexperienced) Dominants taking their first steps into exploring online domination. I will attempt to offer some guidance on basic chat etiquette and how, once you find some kind of online community, to talk to submissives, set up and interact with play scenes, and…