Japanese “manga” has many subcategories. There’s a wide variety of mainstream manga, but it can also veer off to darker places. Loli and shota illustrate underage characters, guro and vore are extremely violent and can include snuff, and hentai quite often shows consensual and non-consensual BDSM. It’s not hard to find any of those varieties…
Category: Sexuality
Keeping the Passion in BDSM Relationships
What we do in BDSM is linked to desire. We can call it servitude, or dominance, or sadism or masochism, or sceneing or sessions, or any of the other many words we use, but ultimately it never fails to come down to desire. We do it because it fulfils this deep need in us, and…
White Light, Black Leather – Balancing the Light and Dark in BDSM
Societal rules are complex and we begin learning them at a very young age. Your family might not have told you that masturbation would make you grow up weak and sickly (or that you’d grow hair on your palms), but you’ll have learnt all kinds of other mistruths from society. Perhaps you heard: • asking…
What Sexual Orientation Are You Really?
For a long time we all talked about sexual orientation in the terms defined in Alfred Kinsey’s 1948 book Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male. Kinsey used a scale of 0 to 6, from heterosexual to homosexual with 5 shades of grey. In recent years we’ve also started talking about sexual orientation in terms of…
Download a Free Editable Sissy Maid Contract
In the U.S., BDSM history is richly steeped in leather culture and the stories of returning WWII veterans and motorcycle clubs. Parts of the community, including Sissy Maids, get overlooked in these stories, yet they have a rich, and better documented, history in Europe. We’ve had quite a number of queries for a Sissy Maid…
Taking BDSM to a Spiritual Level with Tantra
The first thing that comes to most people’s mind when they hear the word “tantra” is sex. The mysterious spiritually-connected image of Tantric Sex is as legendary as it is aspirational. If you have any spiritual practices, particularly Hatha Yoga and some lines of Buddhism, you might not be thinking of the sex, you might…
When is the Right Time to be Tested for Sexually Transmitted Diseases?
If you’re sexually active, sexually transmitted diseased are a possibility. Your partner doesn’t have to be hiding anything from you, they can be transmitted even if he/she doesn’t know anything is wrong. Here’s advice from Luke Adams, a sexual health counselor: The window for gonorrhea to show up is 2-6 days. The window for chalmydia…
Do People Get Involved in BDSM Because They’re Broken?
It’s a commonly held opinion that a lot of people become involved in BDSM or an M/s or D/s lifestyle because they are mentally unstable, broken or are working through childhood trauma. Not just by people outside the community who “don’t know any better”, but by people who are actually involved in BDSM, M/s and…
Your Kink is OK in DSM-5
The American Psychiatric Association depathologized sadism, masochism, cross-dressing and fetishes in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5) in 2013. The DSM-5 defines paraphilia as “any intense and persistent sexual interest other than sexual interest in genital stimulation or preparatory fondling.” A paraphilic disorder is a “paraphilia that is currently causing…
Considering a Poly Relationship? Ask Yourself These Questions First
We’ve extracted this self-evaluation exercise from the book Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino. It’s a fantastic book, available on Amazon, and a must-read if you’re considering non-monogamy (in any of its many forms). Scroll to the end of the questions for a lot more information about the…