This Week in Kink, November 4, 2017

Kevin Spacey leads the news this week after he came out as gay following allegations that he tried to seduce Star Trek star Anthony Rapp when he was 14 years old, by climbing on top of him. The LGBT community has been united (and vocal) in finding the announcement a skeevy attempt at misdirection. Actor…

This Week in Kink, October 28, 2017

A common safety measure in the kink community is to “silo” your social media. You don’t use the same photo on Fetlife that you do on Facebook or Linkedin, because Google’s reverse image search may allow a stalker to follow you from one site to another. But, as facial recognition technology becomes accessible and affordable…

Pushing Boundaries Without Breaking Limits

I’ve taken a little snip from a thread on Fetlife that encapsulates a common viewpoint of Domination that I think contains both myth and jargon: … its important to realize that we also have to push boundaries to help a sub grow. Otherwise you stay in your little box and never get outside it. That…

This Week in Kink, October 21, 2017

Condoms are one of those things you probably don’t think about much until you need one. But of course as a defence against sexually transmitted diseases (and unwanted pregnancies), they only work if they fit right. Not to mention, if condoms are incorrectly sized or uncomfortable, people avoid using them. They’ve been big in the…

Quiz – The Purity Test

We’ve been posting distracting quizzes for a while (see the links below), because even big ‘ol mean Doms have got to have some fun sometimes, but it occurred to me that we’ve never posted the Grand Daddy of all internet quizzes, The Purity Test. The Purity Test is a major timekiller, and very entertaining. The…

Clique Schisms

The crisis consists precisely in the fact that the old is dying and the new cannot be born Antonio Gramsci – Selections from the Prison Notebooks i’ve been clicking around recently looking for a sense of subcultural belonging. One of my favourite podcasts is nosafeword, and i stumbled across an episode called “Clique Schisms”. Sparky…

This Week in Kink, October 14, 2017

There’s been a lot going on in the world of long-distance interactive sex toys recently. No-one is really sure what will happen when the so-called “teledildonics patent” expires next year, lifting many of the restrictions that have prevented sex tech startups from entering the market. Other patents are still being granted. A few weeks ago…

Fassinger’s Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink

This is a companion piece to our previous article The Cass Identity Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink In the same way that we looked at the Cass Sexual Identity Model, I’m going to attempt to re-situate Fassinger’s Model of Gay and Lesbian Identity Development in the context of BDSM subcultural identity formation. Fassinger’s Model…

The Cass Identity Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink

i grew up with the boom in technological advancement we call the Internet Era, so i am one of the so-called “lucky ones”. In my time, laptops and phones have become thin and the speed of the internet has grown fat, in something of an exponential graph. By the time i was 15 i had…

Quiz – What Kind of Submissive Are You?

We know our followers love personality tests and BDSM quizzes. It’s always fun to find out more about who we are. Of course, online tests and quizzes are not definitive of our personality, but they can be fun for self-discovery. Perhaps you’ll just be reassured, or perhaps you’ll discover something about yourself that you never…