D/s Contracts – How to Create One That Works

by Anton Fulmen Written contracts between dominant and submissive partners, often referred to as “slave contracts,” have a long history in the practice of dominance. Some of us find the formality, structure and the sense of commitment and authority of a written contract to be highly appealing. Some contracts are works of erotic fiction: props…

How Does Power Exchange Work?

The truth is rarely pure and never simple. ― Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest In D/s relationships, it appears that all the power resides in the Dominant, and that the submissive is powerless. But this dance of power is not what it seems. It could be said that D/s relationships contains an inner…

Finding a Path to Happiness in Kink

I bought a Kindle for my brother for Christmas and I’ve been collecting some ebooks up for him. He has a particular genre of book he likes to read. You might know what I mean if I mention authors like Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Rhonda Byrne and Stephen Covey. At the risk of grossly over-generalising,…

Illustrated Guide – Rimming

Rimming (or if you want to prim and proper about it, analingus) is divisive. It tends to be either a big turn-on or a big turn-off, though some are in the “meh” camp. The illustration tells you pretty much everything you need to know about eating ass, but it doesn’t touch on safety, so a…

Happy Holidays

It’s always a bit tricky to tell whether we’ve been naughty or nice. In a good year, I think we get the best of both worlds. Have a great Christmas! Image in post by Ismael Álvarez

Submission Can Be Many Things

by Dark Vulcan To make oneself an object, to make oneself passive, is a very different thing from being a passive object. Simone de Beauvoir Submission is a state of mind, not a status. It is a choice, and in BDSM play it is the gift the bottom brings to the scene. However the role-play…

How to Shave a Grown Man

by Gil Shaving can represent the removal of the “manhood” of the bottom, the subservience and vulnerability of the boy, the power of the master. When more visible areas are shaved (e.g. the head), the bottom must deal with issues of image, vanity and ego. From the point of view of physical activity to follow,…

Tough Tits – Nipple Play for Guys

by Anon The following is more a description of a personal repertoire than it is a comprehensive list of technique. I share it with you in the belief that you may find some of these tricks appropriate to your own style. While I wrote the tips on the assumption that one person does something with…

Kinky Play Is Its Own Purpose

If we pick apart the initials BDSM there are all kinds of things inside. We use it as a broad umbrella, covering everything from rope bondage to piercing, humiliation, watersports, latex love, service slavery and so much more. It’s all of our erotic desires outside of the missionary position rolled into one neat abbreviation. It’s…