This Week in Kink, February 24, 2018

Men should eat meat, blackbirds and sparrows to “make the seed abound” before engaging in “conjugal embraces to invigorate mutual desires”. Ladies wanting a boy should lie on their right hand side after sex or on their left for a girl. When you do get pregnant, beware of ‘greedy longings for things that are contrary…

This Week in Kink, January 27, 2018

Let’s start with a couple of apps this week. Legal Fling is a “sexual consent” app which uses blockchain to store your personal preferences. A person can choose ‘yes’ or ‘no’ for different categories, including photo and video, use condom, STD-free, explicit language and BDSM. A request is then sent to the phone of their…

This Week in Kink, December 30, 2017

Tis the season for “year in review” posts, so let’s start off with one for gamers. Kotaku has their finger on the pulse of the gaming world, and they’ve just published a summary of their biggest sex stories of the year. Apparently this year there’s been a lot of it appearing (briefly) on Steam, a…

This Week in Kink, December 23, 2017

Just hours before the original manuscript of the Marquis de Sade’s The 120 Days of Sodom was due to be sold at auction, France declared it a “national treasure”, meaning that it can no longer be exported from the country. Written on a 39-foot scroll smuggled into his Bastille prison cell in 1785, the Marquis…

This Week in Kink, December 9, 2017

Some polyamorous couples each have other partners, but for those in triad (or larger) relationship configurations, one problem you may not have considered is the size of an average bed. Even king-sized beds are tight for three adults. The Ace Collection markets its mattresses as being great for families that co-sleep with their little ones,…

This Week in Kink, December 2, 2017

It’s December, so I feel like it’s an acceptable time to say “It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas”. You’re reading this, so you’ve probably got at least one kinky person on your shopping list. Stockings always make a great stocking stuffer (it’s in the name!), but perhaps you’re wondering what’s new this year?…

This Week in Kink, October 14, 2017

There’s been a lot going on in the world of long-distance interactive sex toys recently. No-one is really sure what will happen when the so-called “teledildonics patent” expires next year, lifting many of the restrictions that have prevented sex tech startups from entering the market. Other patents are still being granted. A few weeks ago…

BDSM Is Not an Answer, So Embrace the Uncertainty

In art, one must throw one’s life away in order to gain it. Gustav Janosch – Conversations with Kafka I think there are many different motivations for seeking out BDSM play or a BDSM relationship dynamic: a drive to satisfy kinks or fetishes novelty escape from societal constraints sense of purpose a sense of completion…

Book Review: BDSM – A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism

A famous bon mot of “America’s sexologist” Ruth Westheimer goes: “The most important sex organ lies between your ears.” This is also where BDSM originates: from the realization that the apex of eroticism doesn’t consist in blindly following your primal instincts of domination and submission, nor in the technical skills involved in handling whips, ropes…