This Week in Kink, February 10, 2018

You might have noticed that a lot of the “dominatrix spam” you see on Fetlife, or phishing you get on dating sites, comes from the Eastern Bloc. A combination of 3 factors have made Romania a major player in the sexcam industry: poverty, an abundance of unemployed (and good looking) young people who speak English,…

This Week in Kink, January 6, 2018

Shock, horror! It’s not all zip-up hoodies and Segways in tech startup culture. The story that seems to be everywhere this week is the drug-fueled sex parties of Silicon Valley, revealed in an extract from Bloomberg TV reporter Emily Chang’s about to be released book Brotopia: Breaking Up the Boys’ Club of Silicon Valley. Describing…

This Week in Kink, December 30, 2017

Tis the season for “year in review” posts, so let’s start off with one for gamers. Kotaku has their finger on the pulse of the gaming world, and they’ve just published a summary of their biggest sex stories of the year. Apparently this year there’s been a lot of it appearing (briefly) on Steam, a…

This Week in Kink, December 9, 2017

Some polyamorous couples each have other partners, but for those in triad (or larger) relationship configurations, one problem you may not have considered is the size of an average bed. Even king-sized beds are tight for three adults. The Ace Collection markets its mattresses as being great for families that co-sleep with their little ones,…

This Week in Kink, November 25, 2017

Here’s something you may never have stopped to wonder. Why is it that so many gay leather bars have the word Eagle in their name? Mikelle Street at NBC News explains that after the 1969 Stonewall Riots, an old longshoreman’s pub was given a coat of black paint to become The Eagle’s Nest, and began…

This Week in Kink, October 14, 2017

There’s been a lot going on in the world of long-distance interactive sex toys recently. No-one is really sure what will happen when the so-called “teledildonics patent” expires next year, lifting many of the restrictions that have prevented sex tech startups from entering the market. Other patents are still being granted. A few weeks ago…

Are You a Pervert? Challenging the Boundaries of Sex

By Gonzalo R. Quintana Zunino Are you a pervert? I believe you are. This statement might offend you. Perhaps you wonder what would compel me to say something like that about you, especially since we’ve never met. However, a voice deep down inside of you might wonder if I am right. Maybe that voice is…

Book Review: BDSM – A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism

A famous bon mot of “America’s sexologist” Ruth Westheimer goes: “The most important sex organ lies between your ears.” This is also where BDSM originates: from the realization that the apex of eroticism doesn’t consist in blindly following your primal instincts of domination and submission, nor in the technical skills involved in handling whips, ropes…

What’s the Difference Between Kink and Fetish?

Erotic is using a feather. Kinky is using the whole chicken. A few decades ago, those into BDSM or leather/latex, or many of our other pleasures, would have been described as “fetishists”. Now we tend to go with “kinksters”. It’s an example of linguistic fashion, but in this case it’s also more accurate. Even though…

Your Kink is OK in DSM-5

The American Psychiatric Association depathologized sadism, masochism, cross-dressing and fetishes in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5) in 2013. The DSM-5 defines paraphilia as “any intense and persistent sexual interest other than sexual interest in genital stimulation or preparatory fondling.” A paraphilic disorder is a “paraphilia that is currently causing…