Illustrated Guide – Measuring for a Chastity Cage

This great illustration is by Pup Capri, who keeps a great chastity blog on Tumblr. Getting the right fit for your chastity cage will make or break the experience. A common mistake is to buy a chastity cage that is too large. Probably the most crucial point for comfort is the base ring, and I…

Illustrated Guide – Non-Monogamy

From casual sex and swinging to open relationships to polyamory to D/s play… there are a lot of ways to do non-monogamy. And then there are the “don’t ask, don’t tells”, the 100 mile rule, cucks and hot-wives, and many other variants. Franklin Veaux created a map of non-monogamy in 2010 that pops up in…

Illustrated Guide – Hanky Codes (2)

This gorgeous poster of the Gay Leatherman’s Hanky Codes was months of research and work by Ben Bear, and he has released it as a free high-res download in two formats (a 2′ x 3′ poster or as 5 tabloid sized panels) on his Ace of Spades PDX website. This month’s poster coincides with Oregon…

Illustrated Guide – Types of Spankings

In an interview between Jessica Gross and Jillian Keenan, published on Longreads as An Exegesis on Spanking Fetishists, Jillian recounts a story from her book: I mention that a friend of mine was dating a guy from the BDSM scene—not the spanking scene, just the BDSM scene. She once complained, “I need a real spanko…

Illustrated Guide – Enemas: How To Clean Your Ass!

This illustration was created by BlindJaw, and you can download it as a PDF here. We have a saying around our house… “shit happens”. But, some people are squicky about mess, especially scatalogical mess, and that’s totally understandable. An enema is basically the injection of liquid into the anus (and hopefully quite deep into the…

Illustrated Guide – Rimming

Rimming (or if you want to prim and proper about it, analingus) is divisive. It tends to be either a big turn-on or a big turn-off, though some are in the “meh” camp. The illustration tells you pretty much everything you need to know about eating ass, but it doesn’t touch on safety, so a…

Illustrated Guide – Figging

Figging, also called Victorian Figging, is the process of carving a piece of ginger into a butt-plug. To get the most from it, run the ginger lightly over a grater after it is peeled, and you’ll find you can keep the intensity up by refreshing it with the grater every 10 minutes or so. Insertion…

Illustrated Guide – 10 Golden Rules of Negotiation

Negotiation forms the basic core of consensual BDSM practices. In fact, negotiation and consent are the primary way BDSM is distinguished from abuse. Unfortunately, I don’t know where these originally came from, but I’ve decided to repost them because I think they’re important. I think we’re often in danger of feeling like we have to…

Illustrated Guide – Human Pup Positions

We’ve reblogged this from Master Slave Primer, who runs an interesting and graphically well produced site of information on Master/slave lifestyle training. His stuff is a delight to look at. If you like the graphic, you can also head over to The Dogs Bolloxx and pick it up as a good looking t-shirt. Headspace is…

Illustrated Guide – Gay (and Leather) Semiotics

I like these pictures from Hal Fischer’s 1977 book Gay Semiotics – A Photographic Study of Visual Coding Amongst Homosexual Men, not just for how much things have changed, but also for how much they have stayed the same. Gaydar is an intriguing thing. Probably at some stage all gay men have wondered how it…