Illustrated Guide – Hanky Codes (2)

This gorgeous poster of the Gay Leatherman’s Hanky Codes was months of research and work by Ben Bear, and he has released it as a free high-res download in two formats (a 2′ x 3′ poster or as 5 tabloid sized panels) on his Ace of Spades PDX website. This month’s poster coincides with Oregon…

Illustrated Guide – Types of Spankings

In an interview between Jessica Gross and Jillian Keenan, published on Longreads as An Exegesis on Spanking Fetishists, Jillian recounts a story from her book: I mention that a friend of mine was dating a guy from the BDSM scene—not the spanking scene, just the BDSM scene. She once complained, “I need a real spanko…

Illustrated Guide – Enemas: How To Clean Your Ass!

This illustration was created by BlindJaw, and you can download it as a PDF here. We have a saying around our house… “shit happens”. But, some people are squicky about mess, especially scatalogical mess, and that’s totally understandable. An enema is basically the injection of liquid into the anus (and hopefully quite deep into the…

Illustrated Guide – Rimming

Rimming (or if you want to prim and proper about it, analingus) is divisive. It tends to be either a big turn-on or a big turn-off, though some are in the “meh” camp. The illustration tells you pretty much everything you need to know about eating ass, but it doesn’t touch on safety, so a…

Illustrated Guide – Figging

Figging, also called Victorian Figging, is the process of carving a piece of ginger into a butt-plug. To get the most from it, run the ginger lightly over a grater after it is peeled, and you’ll find you can keep the intensity up by refreshing it with the grater every 10 minutes or so. Insertion…

Illustrated Guide – 10 Golden Rules of Negotiation

Negotiation forms the basic core of consensual BDSM practices. In fact, negotiation and consent are the primary way BDSM is distinguished from abuse. Unfortunately, I don’t know where these originally came from, but I’ve decided to repost them because I think they’re important. I think we’re often in danger of feeling like we have to…

Illustrated Guide – Human Pup Positions

We’ve reblogged this from Master Slave Primer, who runs an interesting and graphically well produced site of information on Master/slave lifestyle training. His stuff is a delight to look at. If you like the graphic, you can also head over to The Dogs Bolloxx and pick it up as a good looking t-shirt. Headspace is…

Illustrated Guide – Gay (and Leather) Semiotics

I like these pictures from Hal Fischer’s 1977 book Gay Semiotics – A Photographic Study of Visual Coding Amongst Homosexual Men, not just for how much things have changed, but also for how much they have stayed the same. Gaydar is an intriguing thing. Probably at some stage all gay men have wondered how it…

Illustrated Guide: Pentagram Rope Harness

We have a free download PDF of a full body harness that’s popular on our site, but it doesn’t restrict mobility, so it’s more for decorative purposes or as the basis for additions such as a hog tie or hand bind. The Pentagram (or Star) Harness Bondage Tie not only looks sexy… it can (but…

Illustrated Guides – Ponygirl Bit Gag

You can certainly get some nice versions of this from online fetish stores, but if you want to save some money or you just like to make things yourself, this is a project that doesn’t take much material or special skills. The ponygirl bit gag would look just as great on a ponyboy as it…