Quiz – Discover your Personal Erotic Myth

 A Personal Erotic Myth (PEM) contains the fantasy imagery, story-lines, dialogue, props, settings attire,  personas and actions, that drive a person that has a PEM to orgasm, or other deep erotic states. It is often expressed in fetish, kink and D/s-BDSM oriented sex. Some people are quite aware of their PEM. Some may have multiple PEM’s…

Quiz – Check Your Narcissistic Personality Inventory

Narcissism in personality trait is generally conceived of as excessive self love. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was a man who fell in love with his reflection in a pool of water. The NPI was developed by Raskin and Hall (1979) for the measurement of narcissism as a personality trait in social psychological research. It is…

Sexy Chastity Games for boys and their Keyholders

Some time ago we published Chastity – Sexy Games for Solo Players, but we get a lot of enquiries from keyholders for games they can play too. So, the two of you have found the right chastity cage and you’ve got the erections and wanking under control. You might be wondering, what next? Perhaps it’s…

Quiz – Do You And Your Partner Share Hidden Fantasies?

Mojo Upgrade is an interactive sex questionnaire for couples. It presents a list of sexual fantasies to both partners separately and has them indicate their level of interest. After the couple has finished the survey, the site compares the answers. If you both gave a positive response to an activity, then the site shares it;…

Quiz – Are You a Left or Right Brainer?

We all love fun quizzes. Find out how much of your brain works as a lefty and righty. BDSM practices include intensive psychological observation – understanding to dominate and submit. If your Dom has a strong nature that leans to the right brain, abstract arts and flexibility in everyday life may be very pleasurable. It…

Quiz – Which of the Five Love Languages Do You Speak?

Gary Chapman’s best selling book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate posits five ways that we express and experience love: • Words of Affirmation • Acts of Service • Receiving Gifts • Quality Time • Physical Touch Everyone has a primary and a secondary love language. These are the…

Happy New Year, You Cheeky Monkey

Gong xi fa cai, happy new (lunar) year. Although in the West we like to fix dates (January 1st) for our occasions, in Japan, India, China and quite a lot of Asia, we work with the pull of the moon. So, Lunar New Year is the first new moon of the year. In Shengxiao, or…

5 Steps for Creating Healthy Kinky Relationships

It’s a bit of a “just for fun” day today (because Watts The Safeword is always fun), but there’s some solid wisdom in this great video about starting and continuing healthy kinky relationships: So, what were the 5 steps for creating a healthy kinky relationships from Amp and Mr Kristofer? Be Patient Be Open and…

Quiz: Does Your Enneagram Personality Affect Who You Are In Your D/s Role?

Based on the work started in the 1960s and 70s by South American human potential psychiatrists Oscar Ichazo and Claudio Naranjo, the Enneagram of Personality (Enneagram) is a typology of nine interconnected personality types. It’s said to date back to knowledge from 4th century Alexandria. By being aware of what enneagram personality type we are,…

Quiz – What’s Your MBTI Personality Type?

In the famous Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, there are four possible pairs: • Introversion (I) or Extraversion (E) • Intuition (N) or Sensing (S) • Thinking (T) or Feeling (F) • Judging (J) or Perceiving (P) Briggs and Myers work is based on Jung’s theories of the 1920s, and it’s such an established personality typing that…