Looking Deeper into Why BDSM May Benefit Our Mental Health

A significant piece of academic research, published in 2013 by Wismeijer and van Assen, suggests that individuals involved in BDSM subcultures or self-identified as “kinkster” may be prone to have better mental health than the average population. Psychologists and researchers from the Netherlands carried out a qualitative study with a total of 1300 questionaires sent…

White Light, Black Leather – Balancing the Light and Dark in BDSM

Societal rules are complex and we begin learning them at a very young age. Your family might not have told you that masturbation would make you grow up weak and sickly (or that you’d grow hair on your palms), but you’ll have learnt all kinds of other mistruths from society. Perhaps you heard: • asking…

Quiz: Does Your Enneagram Personality Affect Who You Are In Your D/s Role?

Based on the work started in the 1960s and 70s by South American human potential psychiatrists Oscar Ichazo and Claudio Naranjo, the Enneagram of Personality (Enneagram) is a typology of nine interconnected personality types. It’s said to date back to knowledge from 4th century Alexandria. By being aware of what enneagram personality type we are,…

BDSM and Transgression

The human mind is so complicated and yet beautiful. Good is never purely good, it is always mixed with a bit of a bad, and pleasure, identity and sexuality are not singular but wired in a million different directions. It’s part of what makes us human. For some people, the appeal BDSM sexuality and eroticism…

Quiz – What’s Your BDSM Role?

Are you a Master, Dom/me or Top? A slave, sub, bottom or pet? Here’s a quick 24 question quiz that gives you a percentage rating for roles. It’s just fun, but maybe it’ll get you questioning your self-image. UPDATE APRIL 2020: Links come and go, and this quiz was deleted on the host site. It…

Where Is The Signboard That Leads Out Of Depression?

Walking out from the dark cloud wasn’t easy and never will be easy. There is no significant signboard showing your way out, and there are useless signboards everywhere, showing you the direction to another dark cloud. Where is the signboard? The one that doesn’t cheat you and truly shows you the way out to the…