What Makes a Reality Real?

What is reality made out of? We all know that water is made up of two hydrogen and one oxygen molecule, snapped perfectly together to form the shape of liquid under a certain gravitational force and atmospheric pressure. But what about our own reality? Is it so logical? Discussion about BDSM’s association with mental illness…

Piercing and Aftercare – Master got my Nipples Pierced!

A few weeks ago, Master had both of my nipples pierced by professional piercer. I’m still in the healing phase for that and I wanted to share some thoughts on the experience and its meaning to me. FINDING THE PIERCING HEADSPACE There’s always a background story to a piercing or tattoo. Some people get piercings…

How Real is a BDSM Lifestyle? As Real as You Want it to Be

by Joseph D. All sex is a power play. We like to deny it. We like to pretend that sex is birds and bunnies and bubbling brooks, that sex can’t be evil, nasty power dynamics, but that’s what makes it hot for people, whether they cop to it or not. Even the most vanilla sexual…

A Peek Behind the Curtain: Polyamorous Relationships

Just a few days ago, I discover an insightful podcast discussing BDSM polyamorous relationships by No Safe Word — Ungagged Episode 13 – Flipbook Families i self identify as a kinkster, and if you’ve read other articles on this site you might have already gathered that i spend a lot of time thinking about human…

Illustrated Guides – Ponygirl Bit Gag

You can certainly get some nice versions of this from online fetish stores, but if you want to save some money or you just like to make things yourself, this is a project that doesn’t take much material or special skills. The ponygirl bit gag would look just as great on a ponyboy as it…

Suggested Aftercare Guidelines for Body Piercings

 By Association of Professional Piercers Use one or both of the following solutions for healing piercings: Packaged sterile saline solution with no additives (read the label), or a non-iodized sea salt mixture: Dissolve 1/4 teaspoon of non-iodized (iodine-free) sea salt into one cup (8 oz.) of warm distilled or bottled water. A stronger mixture is…

Observations on Fisting: A Personal Journey

by Andrew H. What connects fisting to BDSM? Very simply, it is a power exchange. What elevates it beyond other power exchanges is that a man physically places his life, his very being, in the hand of another man. And whether fisting is part of a larger BDSM scene, or an activity in and of…

Chastity for Abstinence and Chastity for Sexual Charge

A few clicks around Google or Reddit and you’ll probably notice that the idea of locking a male penis has radiated out into even vanilla circles. The intention behind, and reasons for, chastity can be rather diverse. Your reasons may not be another person’s reasons, but you are nearly certainly not alone in your own…

Sexy Chastity Games for boys and their Keyholders

Some time ago we published Chastity – Sexy Games for Solo Players, but we get a lot of enquiries from keyholders for games they can play too. So, the two of you have found the right chastity cage and you’ve got the erections and wanking under control. You might be wondering, what next? Perhaps it’s…

Hot Scenes with Candles

by Gil K. Are you getting hot flashes? Does your skin feel prickly and on fire? Then either you are having an allergic reaction or someone is dripping hot wax on you. Lets hope its the latter, and discuss some technique and safety. MATERIALS A variety of candles can be used. These include: COACH CANDLES:…