Buzzcuts and Head Shaving and Why It’s So Hot

by Peter B. Forced haircuts—the idea of an unwilling guy being tied or held down, pleading and then begging not to have his precious hair taken from him. Then the sudden click-thud as the clippers are switched on, and their hum morphing to a low buzzz as they move to his head… Buzzcuts, brush cuts,…

Abrasion – Rubbing You the Right Way

by Rich W. While the world at large thinks of “abrasion” as a wearing or grinding away by friction or as an irritation, we who are SM-aware know that abrasion is an erotic stimulation of the skin by rubbing, scratching, or pricking. Abrasives are referred to in the Bible and are depicted in Egyptian drawings…

Illustrated Guide: Self Spanking

We’ve reblogged this illustration from Girlfriend and ExGirlfriend BDSM Gallery. They’ve got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. I won’t go into the “why” of self spanking. There are many reasons it might be for you, and Thomas Salas’ article in…

Zen and the Art of Dominance

In Zen Buddhism, there is the concept of ‘Nyo Ze’. It doesn’t translate well to English from the original Japanese, but a close match would be ‘like this, suchness.’ One great 13th Century Zen master – Dogen – said that in order to become a person of suchness, you have to first realize that you…

6 Warning Signs He’s Not a Dom, He’s an Asshole

Narcissists, bullies and other toxic people can be charming and exciting to be around when you first meet them. After all, bad boys are often what get our juices flowing. No offence intended to other Doms out there, but with all honesty there’s a fine line between toxicity and dominance and we’re actually sharing a…

Using the Theory of Planned Behavior for BDSM Training That Lasts

Conversations about Behavior Modification in BDSM usually focus on B.F Skinner’s theory of Operant Conditioning, which centres on positive and negative reinforcement and punishment to influence and instill new behavior. Skinner’s approach is that there are really only two ways of changing someone’s behavior — the carrot and the stick. But, there is a range…

Illustrated Guide – Hanky Codes

Worn Out West has been a Castro Street (San Francisco) destination for leather and western clothing since 1980. They’ve moved to 2352 Market Street, but they’re still going strong. This is one of their hanky code fliers from back in the Castro days to help customers choose the right colours to fly from their pocket….

Quiz – Do You And Your Partner Share Hidden Fantasies?

Mojo Upgrade is an interactive sex questionnaire for couples. It presents a list of sexual fantasies to both partners separately and has them indicate their level of interest. After the couple has finished the survey, the site compares the answers. If you both gave a positive response to an activity, then the site shares it;…

Electricity, Safety and the Nothing Above The Waist Rule

By Dean of Seattle There is a general rule in electrical play: Nothing Above The Waist. This rule can, however, be broken, in specific instances, with strict adherence to procedure. If you aren’t willing to play by the rules in this area though, this article isn’t for you this time. Above the waist is not…