Why Has Sex Addiction Become Such a Problem?

The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) has just released a short position statement that says: It is the position of AASECT that linking problems related to sexual urges, thoughts or behaviors to a porn/sexual addiction process cannot be advanced by AASECT as a standard of practice for sexuality education delivery, counseling…

Safely Separating Our Online Kink Spaces from Our Vanilla Spaces

WHY DO WE NEED SAFETY PROTOCOLS ONLINE? Our lives have become highly integrated with the online space of the internet and social media. For most people, a significant percentage of interpersonal social activities now happen online. Perhaps in the real world we could visit and leave a dungeon or play party without leaving too much…

Healthy Alternatives to Self-Harm and Self-Injury

I picked these images up randomly from Tumblr, so I apologise for not crediting them properly. There are some great suggestions for alternatives to self-harm in them and I wanted to share. FURTHER READING • Cornell University – The Cornell Research Program on Self-Injury and Recovery • Self-Injury.net – FAQ • A Kind Dom –…

What is BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)? An Introduction.

Master Marc asked me a few days ago how i knew something i was feeling was Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and not Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). i described it this way. When a trigger event happens, with PTSD you suddenly find yourself dealing with something that has happened to you in the past. But…