This Week in Kink, February 10, 2018

You might have noticed that a lot of the “dominatrix spam” you see on Fetlife, or phishing you get on dating sites, comes from the Eastern Bloc. A combination of 3 factors have made Romania a major player in the sexcam industry: poverty, an abundance of unemployed (and good looking) young people who speak English,…

The Four Stages to Exploring Your Fantasy

No-one wakes up one morning and says “check it out, I’m into kink now”. We come to all things through a process. A desire takes root, and we prod at it and probe it to see whether it will stick or is just a passing fancy, and how important it is to us. Most of…

This Week in Kink, January 13, 2018

A couple of “Best of 2017” posts that are worth your time: The Camera Loves You! Best of CrashPad 2017, a Photo Journal has photographer Tristan C’s favourites of the year, and they are glorious (and definitely not safe for work). If you’re looking for an afternoon of great reading, try Suzy Hooker’s 2017 Best…

This Week in Kink, December 30, 2017

Tis the season for “year in review” posts, so let’s start off with one for gamers. Kotaku has their finger on the pulse of the gaming world, and they’ve just published a summary of their biggest sex stories of the year. Apparently this year there’s been a lot of it appearing (briefly) on Steam, a…

This Week in Kink, December 23, 2017

Just hours before the original manuscript of the Marquis de Sade’s The 120 Days of Sodom was due to be sold at auction, France declared it a “national treasure”, meaning that it can no longer be exported from the country. Written on a 39-foot scroll smuggled into his Bastille prison cell in 1785, the Marquis…

Quiz: How Kinky is Your Ideal BDSM Room?

It’s the silly season, so no apologies for the lameness of this work-distraction. Festive planning would be so much easier if it was multiple-choice like this quiz. Choose the elements that make up your fantasy BDSM room and let Buzzfeed tell you where you rate on the naughty scale. Design Your Own BDSM Sex Room…

Moving Beyond Maslow’s View of D/s and M/s Relationships

Most religions and moral systems see one of the great human problems as selfishness. A common and unifying philosophy is that personal development is a transcendence from the self to a larger purpose. Around the middle of last century, Abraham Maslow, Carl Rogers and others aimed to liberate and enlarge the self. This was the…

This Week in Kink, November 25, 2017

Here’s something you may never have stopped to wonder. Why is it that so many gay leather bars have the word Eagle in their name? Mikelle Street at NBC News explains that after the 1969 Stonewall Riots, an old longshoreman’s pub was given a coat of black paint to become The Eagle’s Nest, and began…

This Week in Kink, November 18, 2017

Somebody needs to explain to me what’s going on the US, because every time I read something I get more confused. In New York a health teacher has been suspended from her job because she invited a guest lecturer to teach her class about LGBT issues. Parents complained to the school about a pack given…

This Week in Kink, November 11, 2017

Twitter tightened its media policy guidelines last week to toughen up on revenge porn and hate speech, and Buzzfeed caused a bit of a panic by misinterpreting the guidelines as a “sweeping ban on porn”. Advertising has always had fairly strict guidelines on Twitter (because no-one wants their mother to be getting dildo ads in…