The Four Stages to Exploring Your Fantasy

No-one wakes up one morning and says “check it out, I’m into kink now”. We come to all things through a process. A desire takes root, and we prod at it and probe it to see whether it will stick or is just a passing fancy, and how important it is to us. Most of…

Quiz: How Kinky Are You?

A mindless multiple-choice quiz… just the thing if you’re still digesting too much turkey. Don’t expect too much from the results page of this one — mine said “Result: You’re More Than a Little Kinky”, which didn’t surprise me at all. But, I did surprise myself with the answers I gave to some of the…

Quiz – The Purity Test

We’ve been posting distracting quizzes for a while (see the links below), because even big ‘ol mean Doms have got to have some fun sometimes, but it occurred to me that we’ve never posted the Grand Daddy of all internet quizzes, The Purity Test. The Purity Test is a major timekiller, and very entertaining. The…

Fassinger’s Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink

This is a companion piece to our previous article The Cass Identity Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink In the same way that we looked at the Cass Sexual Identity Model, I’m going to attempt to re-situate Fassinger’s Model of Gay and Lesbian Identity Development in the context of BDSM subcultural identity formation. Fassinger’s Model…

The Cass Identity Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink

i grew up with the boom in technological advancement we call the Internet Era, so i am one of the so-called “lucky ones”. In my time, laptops and phones have become thin and the speed of the internet has grown fat, in something of an exponential graph. By the time i was 15 i had…

Are You a Pervert? Challenging the Boundaries of Sex

By Gonzalo R. Quintana Zunino Are you a pervert? I believe you are. This statement might offend you. Perhaps you wonder what would compel me to say something like that about you, especially since we’ve never met. However, a voice deep down inside of you might wonder if I am right. Maybe that voice is…

Living Vicariously: Porn Provides a Tasting Plate for Our Unspoken Fetishes

by Lauren Rosewarne Pornography is hardly an under-theorised medium. For decades, radical feminists have decried its imagery as an instruction manual for rape. As women being objectified, humiliated, tortured. As men receiving positive reinforcement for perpetuating degradation. For decades liberals – be they of the academic, activist or artistic ilk – have raged against slippery…

Finding a Path to Happiness in Kink

I bought a Kindle for my brother for Christmas and I’ve been collecting some ebooks up for him. He has a particular genre of book he likes to read. You might know what I mean if I mention authors like Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Rhonda Byrne and Stephen Covey. At the risk of grossly over-generalising,…

Book Review: BDSM – A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism

A famous bon mot of “America’s sexologist” Ruth Westheimer goes: “The most important sex organ lies between your ears.” This is also where BDSM originates: from the realization that the apex of eroticism doesn’t consist in blindly following your primal instincts of domination and submission, nor in the technical skills involved in handling whips, ropes…