This Week in Kink, February 17, 2018

Here’s a burning question. Can you build up a tolerance to porn? Is it like a gateway drug that requires bigger and bigger hits to get the same high? Dr Justin Lehmiller thinks there is no evidence that’s the case. He reports on a new study published in the journal Sexual Medicine suggests that the…

This Week in Kink, February 10, 2018

You might have noticed that a lot of the “dominatrix spam” you see on Fetlife, or phishing you get on dating sites, comes from the Eastern Bloc. A combination of 3 factors have made Romania a major player in the sexcam industry: poverty, an abundance of unemployed (and good looking) young people who speak English,…

The Four Stages to Exploring Your Fantasy

No-one wakes up one morning and says “check it out, I’m into kink now”. We come to all things through a process. A desire takes root, and we prod at it and probe it to see whether it will stick or is just a passing fancy, and how important it is to us. Most of…

This Week in Kink, February 3, 2018

Cuckolding seems to be having a moment right now, and not just for the term being co-opted into political language as an insult. In an interview with CNN Dr David Ley, author of Insatiable Wives, says: This fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality, but we’re hearing more and more about it…

This Week in Kink, December 30, 2017

Tis the season for “year in review” posts, so let’s start off with one for gamers. Kotaku has their finger on the pulse of the gaming world, and they’ve just published a summary of their biggest sex stories of the year. Apparently this year there’s been a lot of it appearing (briefly) on Steam, a…

Quiz: How Kinky Are You?

A mindless multiple-choice quiz… just the thing if you’re still digesting too much turkey. Don’t expect too much from the results page of this one — mine said “Result: You’re More Than a Little Kinky”, which didn’t surprise me at all. But, I did surprise myself with the answers I gave to some of the…

This Week in Kink, November 4, 2017

Kevin Spacey leads the news this week after he came out as gay following allegations that he tried to seduce Star Trek star Anthony Rapp when he was 14 years old, by climbing on top of him. The LGBT community has been united (and vocal) in finding the announcement a skeevy attempt at misdirection. Actor…

Quiz – The Purity Test

We’ve been posting distracting quizzes for a while (see the links below), because even big ‘ol mean Doms have got to have some fun sometimes, but it occurred to me that we’ve never posted the Grand Daddy of all internet quizzes, The Purity Test. The Purity Test is a major timekiller, and very entertaining. The…

Fassinger’s Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink

This is a companion piece to our previous article The Cass Identity Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink In the same way that we looked at the Cass Sexual Identity Model, I’m going to attempt to re-situate Fassinger’s Model of Gay and Lesbian Identity Development in the context of BDSM subcultural identity formation. Fassinger’s Model…

The Cass Identity Model: Mapping Our Journeys in Kink

i grew up with the boom in technological advancement we call the Internet Era, so i am one of the so-called “lucky ones”. In my time, laptops and phones have become thin and the speed of the internet has grown fat, in something of an exponential graph. By the time i was 15 i had…