This Week in Kink, March 3, 2018

If you’ve only got time to read one article this week, I’m going to recommend Garage Magazine’s BDSM is Everywhere from High Culture to High Fashion. In 1995, photographer Susan Meiselas explored FemDom club Pandora’s Box in NYC for Magnum Photos. She revisits it 22 years later for this assignment, along with writer Katherine Bernard….

This Week in Kink, February 17, 2018

Here’s a burning question. Can you build up a tolerance to porn? Is it like a gateway drug that requires bigger and bigger hits to get the same high? Dr Justin Lehmiller thinks there is no evidence that’s the case. He reports on a new study published in the journal Sexual Medicine suggests that the…

This Week in Kink, February 3, 2018

Cuckolding seems to be having a moment right now, and not just for the term being co-opted into political language as an insult. In an interview with CNN Dr David Ley, author of Insatiable Wives, says: This fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality, but we’re hearing more and more about it…

This Week in Kink, December 2, 2017

It’s December, so I feel like it’s an acceptable time to say “It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas”. You’re reading this, so you’ve probably got at least one kinky person on your shopping list. Stockings always make a great stocking stuffer (it’s in the name!), but perhaps you’re wondering what’s new this year?…

This Week in Kink, November 25, 2017

Here’s something you may never have stopped to wonder. Why is it that so many gay leather bars have the word Eagle in their name? Mikelle Street at NBC News explains that after the 1969 Stonewall Riots, an old longshoreman’s pub was given a coat of black paint to become The Eagle’s Nest, and began…

This Week in Kink, November 11, 2017

Twitter tightened its media policy guidelines last week to toughen up on revenge porn and hate speech, and Buzzfeed caused a bit of a panic by misinterpreting the guidelines as a “sweeping ban on porn”. Advertising has always had fairly strict guidelines on Twitter (because no-one wants their mother to be getting dildo ads in…

This Week in Kink, October 21, 2017

Condoms are one of those things you probably don’t think about much until you need one. But of course as a defence against sexually transmitted diseases (and unwanted pregnancies), they only work if they fit right. Not to mention, if condoms are incorrectly sized or uncomfortable, people avoid using them. They’ve been big in the…

Cruising for a Bruising – The Savage World of BDSM Dating Apps

I’ve recently dangled my feet (again) in murky waters of the gay kink dating app Recon. With a leatherpup and a slaveboy of my own, my dance-card is full, so I’m not there cruising for action. It’s more like ethnographic research. If my regular hangouts on FetLife are like kink university halls, Recon is more…

Safely Separating Our Online Kink Spaces from Our Vanilla Spaces

WHY DO WE NEED SAFETY PROTOCOLS ONLINE? Our lives have become highly integrated with the online space of the internet and social media. For most people, a significant percentage of interpersonal social activities now happen online. Perhaps in the real world we could visit and leave a dungeon or play party without leaving too much…