The human mind is so complicated and yet beautiful. Good is never purely good, it is always mixed with a bit of a bad, and pleasure, identity and sexuality are not singular but wired in a million different directions. It’s part of what makes us human. For some people, the appeal BDSM sexuality and eroticism…
Category: Sexuality
The Psychology of BDSM
by bruce On Saturday evening, after a workshop on the ‘Psychology of BDSM’ was over, I was walking home wondering to myself what really motivated me to pursue BDSM. While the evening started out well, and proved to be interesting by itself, I got the feeling that, by the end of the talk, few panelists…
How Kink Heals
by tydominic INTRODUCTION I remember hearing rhetoric over the years such as “What is going to happen when all these kids grow up without active parents? Or in broken homes? Or in difficult times?” Well, here we are and we hurt. We hurt so bad inside that we have to do something about it. But,…
Kinky Desires – Should You Tell Your Therapist?
Any therapist worth their framed degree will be trying to take a holistic approach to your mental well-being. They’ll be interested in exploring your relationship with the world, and in particular with the people in your world. No-one ever wants to freak out their therapist, but keeping silent about your BDSM lifestyle: – robs the…
Quiz – Map Your Kinks
If you follow our blog you’ll notice we like quizzes. Life is stressful enough, with all those boots to lick clean and canes to shine, so forgive us if we want a little idle distraction in our lives. Isn’t that why the internet was invented? Do you know how kinky you really are? I mean…
The Periodic Table of Kink
Sorry kink explorers, but fluffy handcuffs are considered vanilla. If you have a thing for tentacles, figging, snowballing, rusty trombone, cupping or queening then you’re definitely considered kinky though, and this great periodic table will show you some associated kinks. My favourite bit is the common paraphilias section in white, but it’s all interesting and…
BDSM – Sexual Orientation or Just Good Clean Dirty Fun?
Jillian Keenan is a brilliant writer at Slate. Check out her work here. In an article We’re Kinky, Not Crazy, she opens by saying: The American Psychiatric Association has decided that people with kinky sexual interests (which—let’s just get this out of the way—includes me) don’t necessarily have mental disorders. That seems like good news,…
Borderline Personality Disorder – Nature or Nurture? A Personal Story
In my later school years I discovered a website called Recon, which is a cruising ground for gay men into BDSM, kink and fetish. Looking for an escape from my life, i would send messages to thousands of people and i’d be on the site every day. Eventually i met Master Marc, who treated me…