by Becca (shadows-dance) I think every person’s kink is unique. Now let me explain myself. 🙂 I think of “kink” as a giant box of Crayolas. We all get one the second we decide that “vanilla” isn’t what we want. Sure, there’s a white crayon in the box, but it’s not our favorite. BDSM encompasses…
Category: Sexuality
Quiz – Understand the Psychology of Your Sexuality
The BSPI Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator gives you a unique insight into your own preferences. Answer a series of questions to understand: • What kind of partner orientation (Dominant, submissive etc) are you? • How are you turned on? • What gives you pleasure? • What kind of sexual encounters will you enjoy most? •…
The Sensuality of Smell
by bruce “As i moved my face to His pits, i drank in the aroma of a million pores of sweat, basking in the fragrance of my Master. Perhaps it reminded me of an absolute security years ago when i held in my father’s arms, the masculinity of him permeating my nostrils. Perhaps it was…
Chastity – Dealing with Intense Emotions and Difficult Communication
Most guys who take chastity beyond a couple of hours, or a couple of days, are no longer doing it just for fun. It becomes a tool for devotion, power exchange and emotional connectivity. It is about letting go of your ego and letting someone you submit to take charge of your body. Like a…
Exploring BDSM with Mental Health Issues
The term “mental illness” is loaded with negative connotations, often debatable and very tricky to define. What is “mentally ill” and what is “having a different mentality that sits outside the norm”? i’ve used “mental health issues” in the title of this article, but it doesn’t have to be “issues” in a negative sense. Being…
No Sex Please, Just The Kink
If you’re on online cruising and dating sites, like Collarspace, Tinder and Recon, you’d be forgiven for thinking that BDSM is just the kinky spice that’s sprinkled on top of sex. Whether you’re Top or bottom, if you stray from the prescribed script about being a nympho/stud with a “do anything” attitude, you can find…
BDSM and the Pursuit of Happiness
Even though a recent Guardian article, Never tried BDSM? Go on, it’s good for you, points to studies that suggest that those of us expressing ourselves sexually may be happier than the average, there are a lot of people who are “under happy”. I’m using the term “under happy”, rather than “unhappy”, because I think…
Aces Are High – Asexuality and Demisexuality
WHAT IS ASEXUAL? An asexual is someone who has little or no sexual attraction to others. It’s not the same as abstaining from sexual activity or celibacy. But, like “BDSM”, “asexual” is a big umbrella term that encompasses a range of different levels of attraction. The most common use of the term is for individuals…
The Secret Transgression of an Undercover Lover
Everyday life can get a bit mundane and humdrum. Stuff that used to give us challenge or put a spark in our day gets repeated over and over again, and becomes less interesting. It happens in relationships too. One technique to give you a tingle throughout the day is to add a secret. A layer…
The Relationship Between BDSM and Ancient Tantra
By Dr. Michael Dean Goodman (Maheshvara) This is a fascinating topic – one that I’ve spent years exploring. I had the great good fortune to spend years living with, and to be trained and initiated by, a renowned Indian yogic/tantric master – who sent me out to share what I’d gained. I teach tantra workshops…