The Inner Selves of the Dominant and submissive in D/s Relationships

The magical thrill of the Dominant/submissive commitment is what most kinksters strive for. Not only because of the erotic ambiance that it provides, but there is something visceral about it. When we think of D/s, it can make our heart buzz and give us goosebumps. What really goes on between the stern standing Dominant and…

Quiz: Does Your Enneagram Personality Affect Who You Are In Your D/s Role?

Based on the work started in the 1960s and 70s by South American human potential psychiatrists Oscar Ichazo and Claudio Naranjo, the Enneagram of Personality (Enneagram) is a typology of nine interconnected personality types. It’s said to date back to knowledge from 4th century Alexandria. By being aware of what enneagram personality type we are,…

Download a Free Editable Sissy Maid Contract

In the U.S., BDSM history is richly steeped in leather culture and the stories of returning WWII veterans and motorcycle clubs. Parts of the community, including Sissy Maids, get overlooked in these stories, yet they have a rich, and better documented, history in Europe. We’ve had quite a number of queries for a Sissy Maid…

Human Puppy Play & BDSM Training 1: Finding The Headspace

by Brian Dawson This is part 1 of a 4 part series on puppy play. Part 2: Types of Dogs and Puppies Part 3: Biology – Veterinary Tips for the Human Dog Part 4: Basic Training There are those of us in this wide world who, for one reason or another, identify with animals. For…

Illustrated Guide – Pet Play Tailplugs

We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. animal play: (see pet play, ponygirl , ponyboy, pup-play) The sub behaves and/or dresses like an animal. The principal theme of animal role…

Can Role-Play Add to the Pleasure That Pain Brings?

What’s in your sadomasochist (S/m) repertoire? If you think of role-play as “I’m the stern headmaster and you’re the naughty student” then some people enjoy that kind of play and some people don’t find much in it. In this context we’re talking about role-play as making up fictional characters or putting ourselves as real characters…

Brats, SAMs and Break-mes

Brats are possibly something of a misunderstood species. They get a bad rap by many in the community who immediately associate the role with “petulant child”. But is that really what a brat is? We’d call a child a brat if they’re misbehaving, but most submissives who identify as brats see it as a role…

Illustrated Guide – Hand Signals

We’ve reblogged this illustration from Boyfriend and ExBoyfriend BDSM Gallery. He’s got great taste in NSFW pics too. This is a regular series of illustrated guides. You can find the others here. Some Doms use a standard set of hand signals in their training, but they vary from Dom to Dom and House to House….

Which Shade of BDSM Will Set You Free?

by Becca (shadows-dance) I think every person’s kink is unique. Now let me explain myself. 🙂 I think of “kink” as a giant box of Crayolas. We all get one the second we decide that “vanilla” isn’t what we want. Sure, there’s a white crayon in the box, but it’s not our favorite. BDSM encompasses…

Overcoming Limits of D/s in Long Distance Relationships

The languid Dom in a silky robe leans back in his comfortable chair, takes a sip from him coffee and draws on his cigarette. His naked and collared sub moves forward from his kneeling position to take the cup, then backs away and hurries to the kitchen to refresh it. What we have in that…