by bruce On Saturday evening, after a workshop on the ‘Psychology of BDSM’ was over, I was walking home wondering to myself what really motivated me to pursue BDSM. While the evening started out well, and proved to be interesting by itself, I got the feeling that, by the end of the talk, few panelists…
Category: Being Worthy
Ageing Bottoms and the Gay BDSM Community
by Bob Buckley It is (or can be) very nice to have friends. But, sometimes, they do make simple suggestions. This paper came about from the simple suggestion of Daddy Bob (Los Angeles) that I write about the ageing bottom, and from the equally simple suggestion of Doc (Dallas) that I write about the ageing…
How Kink Heals
by tydominic INTRODUCTION I remember hearing rhetoric over the years such as “What is going to happen when all these kids grow up without active parents? Or in broken homes? Or in difficult times?” Well, here we are and we hurt. We hurt so bad inside that we have to do something about it. But,…
A Field Guide To “Creepy Dom”
by Asher Bauer Introduction This is a public service announcement for the BDSM and kink community. It is especially directed at anyone relatively new, and extra especially at anyone who ever bottoms. For the benefit of everyone’s mental health and safety, I would like to discuss the widespread phenomenon known as Creepy Dom. Creepy Dom…
Dominants – Worshipping the Feet of Clay
i was more than grateful to read The Imperfect Dominant’s Charter, written by _cleric_. It is difficult for a Dominant/Master to come down from His broad arm chair and sit on the floor, facing thousands of subs and say, you know what? I am actually just like you, I have flaws and I have my…
The Imperfect Dominants’ Charter
All types of media, from fashion to porn and everything in between, have filled our heads with what perfection looks like. It’s a “perceived perfection” but stifling none the less. Holding us back from trying new things for fear of looking foolish. Keeping us isolated for fear of being judged. Controlling far more of our…
Can Borderline Personality Disorder be the Secret Sauce in an SM Relationship?
It’s hard to differentiate what is delusional, due to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and what is genuine self. When i look back on my own journey, things formed intertextually. My true self, with its own inner core of emotions, and its understanding and perception of the external world, is there. But so too are symptoms…