by Larry R. Shockey This is part 3 of a 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 1 – Learning the Basics • Part 2 – Preparing for Play (Advice for Fisting Tops and bottoms) • Part 4 – Keeping It Safe, Clean…
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Anal Fisting – Preparing for Play
by Larry R. Shockey This is part 2 in a 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 1 – Learning the Basics • Part 3 – The Mind-Body Connection (Headspace Before, During and After the Scene) • Part 4 – Keeping It Safe,…
Anal Fisting – Learning the Basics
by Larry R. Shockey This is the first in a comprehensive 4-part guide to anal fisting by Larry Shockey, organizer of Hell Hole San Francisco and Fist Fest. • Part 2 – Preparing for Play (Advice for Fisting Tops and bottoms) • Part 3 – The Mind-Body Connection (Headspace Before, During and After the Scene)…
Keeping It Clean – Hygiene and Safety for Toys and Sharps
By Fledermaus Each person must understand that these are relative degrees of cleanliness and safety as they apply to various kinds of contaminants. As with all BDSM play, both Top and bottom must understand the levels of risk and accept that risk for the activities in which they engage. Sterile Something that is sterile is…
Safe Call Apps to Watch Your Back
If you’re meeting (or are responsible for someone else who is meeting) someone for the first time or playing somewhere new, then safe calls are a tool for helping to keep meetings safe. Since forever, we’ve done it by arranging a voice-to-voice call and a secret duress/distress code with a friend, for a certain time…
What is Edge Play?
by MutualRespect Defining edge play is a tricky business. Not because the definition is slippery, but because you need to also address the prejudices of those who do not understand it. The public’s natural opinion of edge play is that it is dangerous and abusive. Everything we do in kink carries a certain level of…
Dungeon Monitor Kits – The DM’s Tool Bag
by DR Webster The DM Kit is a Dungeon Monitor’s tool bag. It’s a basic first aid and rescue kit. Even if a venue or organizer provides first aid supplies and other equipment, having the things you need with you means you don’t have to find the supplies you need before you deal with whatever…
Exploring BDSM with Mental Health Issues
The term “mental illness” is loaded with negative connotations, often debatable and very tricky to define. What is “mentally ill” and what is “having a different mentality that sits outside the norm”? i’ve used “mental health issues” in the title of this article, but it doesn’t have to be “issues” in a negative sense. Being…
Self Bondage – Some Words Before You Start
We’re going to run a series of articles on self bondage in the coming weeks, and before we do, I thought it would be wise to say a few words about risk and safety. I know, it’s not the sexiest of subjects, but please read on. This stuff is important, and even if you think…
Negotiating Away the Stupidity
by y.t. One of the mental characteristics in a BDSM relationship i thought i should touch on is the subject of stupidity. Of course, “stupidity” is weighty, in vocations, and i was reluctant to jump into the fray without a life preserver. But since we’re on the subject, i want to put in my “two…