In a good world we wouldn’t have geographical separation to cope with, but it is what it is and sometimes we have to incorporate distance as an element in what we do.
I’m going to share the system of long-distance chastity that we use. I’m sure it’s not the only way, but it works for us.
SEALING THE KEY
The key goes in an envelope. An office window-faced envelope is a great idea so You can see the key. Then boy writes date, time and “property of…” along the seal. Over the top of this you might want to put some clear box-tape.
REPORTING IN
First thing in the morning and last thing in the evening, boy sends me a photo of my locked property via phone message (we use Whatsapp). In the morning he sends two… one from a wider perspective so I can see his handsome face and one closer using his iPad home-screen to show the date. In the evening he sometimes includes the sealed envelope in the picture. The general rule is to be creative and not bore me with the same photos every day.
WHEN IT GETS TOO MUCH
Our chastity arrangement is long-term, so we are not counting down to negotiated dates, but yours might be for fixed periods. Sometimes boy hits the edge and the feelings get intense. he has permission to beg me for short term release. If I’m feeling kind I give him a get-out-of-jail-free release, and if I’m feeling a bit stricter I negotiate a penalty payment.
If you’re using a steel or silicon male chastity device then they’re not 100% secure and some element of trust is involved. There is the possibility of an incage-cum or spoiled orgasm, which is basically jerking off with the cage on. If he hits the edge and you don’t want to unlock the cage, then allowing an incage-cum can be an effective release.
HYGIENE AND HEALTH
If you’re using a steel cage you probably won’t have difficulty with hygiene, but boy is under strict orders to tell me if there’s any rashes, chafing or other health concerns.
PROSTRATE HEALTH
Your mileage is going to vary on this, and it depends largely on what you believe. Many websites will tell you that prostrate milking is necessary for long term chastity. I’m not a doctor, but I believe that the body will take care of itself and if it needs to rebalance it will do that through a wet dream. Yes, it does happen. If you’re really going long-term then google it and decide for yourself whether you’re going to include prostrate milking in your routine or not.
CROSSING BORDERS WITH CUSTOMS X-RAYS
We actually use two male chastity devices… a steel one (usually) and a plastic one for travel. Instead of a lock, we use a cable tie on the plastic one.
SPOT INSPECTIONS
It happens occasionally, but it’s just a fun game. I trust that boy would never cheat. Occasionally I’ll send him a “show me now” message and he’ll need to find a public toilet or quiet spot to snap a pic.
WHEN THE DISTANCE IS GONE
We’ve used the same lock for a while, although showers are much kinder to steel chastity devices than they are to locks and they do need to be regularly replaced. I have a key and boy keeps a key. The point of our chastity is that he is locked when he is away, so when he is with me I unlock him with my key (or snip his cable tie). When he leaves I lock him back up again.
ANYTHING ELSE?
We’ve integrated chastity into our TPE and it works really well for us. If you have any questions then please do leave a comment or hit us up with the contact form. We’re happy to share.
I am looking for a keyholder… are you willing… i am currently locked in a stainless steel device and have been for 3 weeks… i am looking for permanent Chastity and need a keyholder who is willing to actually accept my key… i want a key to my device in the USA… are you interested???
Please I’ve been looking for a true keyholdeder they are hard to find I would love to get a PA piercing and a stainless steel chasitiy so I can be permanently locked please contact me I’m ready and willing to purchase whatever is necessary please keep me locked forever!
Are there long term psychology effects of chastity for both sub and dom? Looking at ones like the nub that basically hides cock so well it removes his cock from sight. I am curious to see what others experienced or noticed? We discussed how it can change thinking. What say you?
Hello SLICK,
There are definitely some long term psychology effects of chastity for sub, not so sure about Dom, but i believe it does make a slight difference. For one, the prevention of orgasm do build up testosterone, and there are some biological changes to it, and it is highly unique to how you, your psyche, and your biology reacts to your chastity locked. but i personally don’t think there will be any serious damage. i have locked in a tiny chastity cage for a long long time, and i don’t think anyone else notices it, but it is a lifestyle that i have grown into and it’s a promise that i have had with my Master.
How it changes thinking? I am fairly sure you will know if you keep your dick locked up for someone else for an extended period of time. and in my case, forever. Bare in mind tho, everyone is different, so what I feel, and experience may not be true to what you feel.
Regards.
Thanks for the reply,. This topic interests me as i read about the chastity devise called the nub . It seems like perfect lock to remove any sense of having a penis for a sub. Makes me think about if thats the point and how many dominants use that for that purpose. So a year in the nub and you no longer get to even see penis to even go bathroom let alone you are now in panties. I wonder the effect to both sub and dominant wife .
One story i read of wife who no longer let her hubby do any masterbating let alone even touch his penis but instead got him to rub anothers penis when he said he needed to feel an erection. And this now was his outlet. Im sure all kind of scenarios like this. Prefer ones that are real and not overly dramatic when i hear stories or how all of this effects both dom and sub mentally.
Hi SLICK,
Glad you find your hotness, a good way to start is to try it out yourself! and for many people out there (including myself) it’s not just a story It’s pretty much a reality. It’s not dramatic at all, but if you have never try it out, you would never know.
All the best in your journey of discoveries!