By Fledermaus (aka Tony DeBlase) This is Part 1 of a two-part article on CBT by the late Tony DeBlase. Part 2 includes piercing, urethral invasion, electrotorture and scrotal inflation. You can find it HERE. “As a sadist, I can say without equivocation, there is nothing in the world I find more beautiful than the…
Category: Masochism
Pleasure and Pain: An Ode to Spankings
by Madame Beatrice When I think of spankings, I think of two things: transference and release. A spanking isn’t simply the sum of swats on a submissive’s beautifully curved ass; it’s a transfer of energy from one mind’s body into the flesh of another mind and body. Each time contact is made between an open…
The History (and Controversial Psychology) of Sadomasochism
The two words incorporated into this compound, “sadism” and “masochism,” were originally derived from the names of two authors. The term “Sadism” is derived from the name of Marquis de Sade. Not only did he practice sexual sadism, he also wrote novels about these practices (best known is Justine ). The term “Masochism” was named…
Are Sadists and Masochists Sociopaths?
Are kinksters, particularly hardcore kinksters involved in sadomasochism, or intense power play, acting out sociopathic or psychopathic tendencies? Many people, even professional therapists, believe so. “Psychopathy (/saɪˈkɒpəθi/; also known as – though sometimes distinguished from – sociopathy /ˈsoʊsiəˌpæθi/) is traditionally defined as a personality disorder characterized by enduring antisocial behavior, diminished empathy and remorse, and…
Subspace versus Bottomspace
Subspace is actually a mashup of two shortened words: sub – short for submissive, which can be generally defined as “person who consensually gives up control either all the time or for a specified period” space – short for headspace, slang for mental state The Merriam-Webster Dictionary might offer a better definition of submissive as…
How Kink Heals
by tydominic INTRODUCTION I remember hearing rhetoric over the years such as “What is going to happen when all these kids grow up without active parents? Or in broken homes? Or in difficult times?” Well, here we are and we hurt. We hurt so bad inside that we have to do something about it. But,…
Masochism – Can It Be Cured?
CAN MASOCHISM BE CURED? This question carries a subtle pre-conceived notion of masochism – that masochism is a sickness or disease of some sort that needs to be cured. It’s the type of question that is raised with any socially deviant act, along the lines of “can homosexuality be cured” (still being debated, even in…
The Difference Between Masochism and Self-Harm
THE MOTIVATION BEHIND MASOCHISM AND SELF-HARM We have briefly talked separately about masochism and self-harm, but where is the line drawn, and are they interchangeable? The core distinction between them is the intention, or motivation of the person looking for the pain. Masochists derive meaning from pain, be it sexual pleasure, spiritual satisfaction, physical thrill…
Different Types of Masochism – One Size Does Not Fit All
There are many different types and levels of masochism, and so often you’ll hear a conversation in the BDSM community where the two people are struggling to communicate because they are using the word in two different ways. As a term, diverse people with diverse intentions fall into the grouping. If you do a quick…
A Sadist’s Philosophy of Pain
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Kahlil Gibran Pain is an intense physical sensation. It has evolved as a warning – the body’s way of telling you that you are in danger or something is wrong. That burns, this is broken, that is cut: you’d better do something about…