Age Play and littles – Exploring The Inner Child


Most littles take the role of a submissive child in age play. There are switch littles and (rare) Dominant littles, but overwhelmingly it is a sub role.

I will define age play as a scene or time (or entire relationship) in which one person (usually the submissive) acts and may dress as if younger in age, ranging from infant to adult child. That’s a somewhat controversial definition, because others will say that age play is a role-playing game only and so it’s not what true littles “do”. I’m just keeping it general. I’m using it to mean “the time when a little is able to go into littlespace” (see below).

Age play may or may not include sexual relations. It usually revolves around the nurturing relationship of parent/child or teacher/student, but the naughty or sexy elements of that relationship may be an important part of the kick.

Contrary to popular belief, littles don’t need to be waif-thin, pale, tiny little things. They come in all shapes, sizes and colours. They also come in both genders, and as gender-fluid too. They come hetero, homo, bi and asexual. They also come with a wide range of interests. Not every little likes race cars or cartoons or colouring books.

I hope that all sounded obvious to you, but for many people it’s not and I wanted to get a few misconceptions out of the way early.

You don’t have to have a significant other, Dominant or not, to be a little. It’s not the relationship that defines you, it’s you. If you identify as a little, then you’re a little.

I’m going to call these Daddy/little relationships because I feel most comfortable writing that way, but you can read it as Mommy/little if that’s the way you roll. A few other abbreviations you’ll find on the internet:
• ABDL – adult baby diaper lovers
• DD/lg – Dominant Daddy / little girl (lb for little boy)

I’m generalising somewhat by calling everyone who goes into alternate-age-spaces “littles”. There are middles and bigs too, and they have some different characteristics, but I’ll save that for another post.

It’s also worth noting that in the gay leather community there is a Daddy-boy dynamic that is nothing to do with age play at all. A leatherboy is not necessarily the same as a little boy, and a leather Daddy does not necessarily take on the same role or have the same characteristics as the Dominant Daddy referred to in the littles community.

Although the DD/lb is probably the archetypal little relationship, it’s not the only one and other types of relationships (mono and poly) are actually very common in the little community. Two littles together can have a lot of fun.


You’ve heard of subspace and Domspace, so here’s another one… littlespace. It’s that space where the little slips into a younger mind frame. Most change their behavior and way of speaking, using “baby talk” or less mature vernacular. That may be all, or they may engage in diaper play and age play.

In a relationship (which could be a scene or could be a long term relationship), a significant other, typically Dominant, may assign rules or guidelines, tasks, and assignments. Some examples are bedtimes, rules for getting household tasks and homework done in a timely manner, and being polite. The goal of the tasks is to suspend or hold the little in littlespace, and they are often structured with the intention of looking out for, guiding, and helping the little to become a better person.


littles are not children, they are not immature nor irresponsible. Most have stressful, demanding and challenging schedules outside of their littlespace. They may have a very important job, a grueling course load in school, or very important roles in their family/community.

littlespace is a place to unwind. It provides peace in the letting go of responsibility for a safe time. The beauty of littlespace is often the feeling of not being responsible for everything, even if it’s just for a short time.

A responsible Daddy, Mommy or significant other protects them in their vulnerability and helps them create a healing space, where they can take care of themselves, instead of taking care of everybody else all the time.


• Adult Little Girls and Daddy Doms – Who’s Your Daddy?
• A Little Understanding – What is a Daddy Dom?
• Dominant Life – What is a Daddy Dom?
• In Daddy’s Arms – What is the DD/lg Dynamic?
• Understanding Infantilism – The ABDL Triangle
The Big Little Podcast

• FetLife

Gay Male Daddies and boys
Long Distance Littles
Troubled Littles
Middles, Mediums & Those Who Love Them
Queer Age Play
– There are also adult baby groups and many (many!) general and niche DD/lg FetLife groups. Just type what you’re looking for into the search box on the site and sift the results

6 Comments Add yours

  1. tami says:

    please tell me more about this aspect I have people asking me about tit

    1. boy denon says:

      Hi Tami,

      What did Your friend ask me that You are want to know more? i am asking this so that i have a clue where to begin. Otherwise, We will keep in mind to write more age play post in future!


  2. Jonah says:

    Hi! This was a very well written article. Thank you for writing it! I was wondering if you may be able to offer some advice. My gf is really interested in being a little, or maybe just trying it out to see if it’s her thing exactly. We’ve been dating for three years, but only talking to each other about kink for about six months. Also, we’re long distance. I’m in college in Vegas and she’s a thirty-six hour drive away in North Carolina. Because we’re young and not /physically/ there all the time, we don’t have a Bdsm dynamic set up in our relationship yet. We just know that when she’s little, I’ll be big and I’ll be the one taking care of her.
    Is there any way you could think of for us to do the little/big thing through the long distance? It seems like everything we would do with this (yknow like, playtime, cutting the crusts off sandwiches, basically any and everything innocent and adorable like that) would only work if we’re physically there, and we just can’t be yet.
    Any sort of advice would be very much appreciated.

    1. boy denon says:

      Hi Jonah,

      i am not sure what kind of advice i can provide, i guess You can look into LDR Archive where we written article to break down the issues and pros, and cons, about LDR Relationship. Other than that, it is really personal to You and Your girlfriend. Send her a lollipop and she will probably be really happy if that is the thing that her little space is. Generally, finding out Your Daddy headpsace and her little headspace would help identifying what can be positive for You and Your little girl. Having a coloring books, drawing, and stuff like watching cartoon together, and explore other things that may works for You and Your little. You can still do the little things that You like to do with her in physical space, set a time to have breakfast together, or watch film together would help the connection. Keep a journal to share stories and fantasize, do Skype, etc. there are many ways to make an LDR Relationship works, it is a lot of hard work but creativity will help make things easier.


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